Come on…you know you’ve heard it and maybe even considered it…Your good friend just got a new camera and is tossing around the idea of a wedding photography business, so he’ll shoot your wedding at no cost for his “portfolio”. A sister-in-law just got married, is very organized and finds awesome Pinterest ideas, so that must qualify her to be a wedding planner…and she’s free! The gal at work has a cousin who bakes cupcakes on the weekends and will give you a screaming deal for your reception.
Everyone likes to save money and come across a bargain, so why wouldn’t we take someone up on the “great offer” they will give us for a service needed at the wedding? Here are some thoughts on that question:
- First and foremost, consider what occasion you are celebrating. IT’S YOUR WEDDING DAY! This is a once-in-a-lifetime event. You’ve been dreaming and envisioning this day for many months (at the very least). You’ve been planning how to make this day perfect for you, your fiancé and guests. The words “second-rate” (or third or fourth) and “amateur” should not be in your vocabulary or thought process when planning for THIS day.
- Professionals are called professionals for a reason. They are experienced, passionate, and exceptional at what they do. They come highly recommended by clients and business piers alike, and can be depended upon to provide the highest quality end product. These are the people you want to employ…the ones whose sole purpose is to ensure that your day of days is just what you hoped it would be. That right there is worth every penny!
- Think about this: what happens when good friend with the camera gets sick, sister-in-law was offended so dropped the ball or co-workers cousin decided to go on vacation at the last minute? Who then gets to scramble for a “Plan B”? YOU…THE BRIDE! Things like this really do happen…more than you could ever imagine. Professionals can get sick, but always have first class back-ups. They may not personally favor your idea, but will make it happen to meet your expectations (or exceed them in most cases). There’s no such thing as a professional “forgetting” or pulling a no-show. That couldn’t possibly be worth the free/cheap price tag.
Family and friends love you. That’s why they will do what they can to help you at your wedding. You love them in return, so why not just let the most special people in your life come and do what you invite your guests to do…help you CELEBRATE your marriage, ENJOY the surroundings, and MAKE LIFELONG MEMORIES!
Your New Beginnings Bridal Studio Team
In my article for the last issue I shared 5 Things Your Guests Won’t Tell You, with some of the things that you and I, as guests, have experienced at other people’s weddings and events. You know, the things we say as we’re leaving, or when recounting the tales of the affair to those who weren’t there.
In case you missed it, here’s the summary (you can find the entire article on page 101 in the Fall 2013 issue of Beautiful Bride Magazine):
1) Your guests won’t thank you for making your Mom, sister, best friend or maid of honor work on your wedding day.
2) Your guests won’t thank you for making them wait while you take pictures.
3) Your guests won’t tell you that you put way too many things on your wedding registry.
4) Your guests want to see, and hear your ceremony. Ask them to stay in their seats so everyone else can see.
5) Your guests won’t thank you for hiring the cheapest wedding vendors.
I had so much good input for the first article that I wanted to continue it here. So, here are 5 More Things Your Guests Won’t Tell You:
1) The music was too loud for conversation. We know that it’s usually the older folks who would complain about the noise, but truth be told, everyone wants to be able to have a conversation. If you hire the right band or DJ, and they know your venue well, they’ll be able to ensure that your guests will be able to have a conversation at their tables, even while the dance floor is packed.
2) I came here to see the two of you, not the people at my table. While it can be tough with a larger guest count, everyone there came to see you, the happy wedding couple. It’s your role to be gracious hosts & hostesses and make sure that your guests are acknowledged for attending and having a good time. Even a receiving line is a way for them to get a moment of face time with you.
3) Not sending thank you cards, it’s just rude – Wow, I heard this from a few people. People who have gone to the trouble of sending you a gift, whether they attended your wedding or not, whether it was off your registry or not, need to be properly thanked. No one is obligated to send you a gift because you got married. Sending a thank you note (preferably a hand-written one that’s personal) is a very nice, and very classy touch.
4) There were way too many speeches… What’s that you said? I’m sorry, I tuned out. Let the best man and maid of honor make their speeches. Mom & Dad and other close friends and relatives should give their speeches at the rehearsal dinner. Most of the guests won’t get the inside jokes and it puts a real damper on the mood and energy to have your guests sit through endless toasts.
5) Thanks for not thinking about the comfort of your guests during the ceremony. This is especially true for outdoor ceremonies scenarios, having your guests sitting in the blazing hot sun without fans for a 45-60 minute ceremony. Consider not only the time of year, but also how long your guests will be waiting for the ceremony to start. Can you have a tent? Can you have somewhere for the guests to get some shade before they get seated? Can you have water or other cool beverages for them? Those plastic folding chairs aren’t the most comfortable for sitting for long periods, especially in dressy clothing.
Well, there you have it, 5 more things you wouldn’t want if you were a guest at a wedding, and now you can avoid doing them to your guests. Realistically it would be best for every couple to put themselves in the shoes of their guests. It’s hard to do for a couple of reasons. First, it’s your wedding day, so it’s all about you, right? Sort of. The ceremony is all about you, but the reception is a celebration of your union, so throw a great party for your friends and family. When you throw a party for your friends and family, you make sure they have a great time. The other reason it’s hard to put yourself in their shoes is that you’re not them. You eat different foods. You enjoy different music. You like different design and décor. Quite simply it’s hard to please everyone, so don’t try to, but do try to make everyone feel comfortable and welcome (which is why I advocate using a professional wedding planner, that’s what they do so well and they can help you navigate these murky waters).
I’m sure you’re going to have a wonderful wedding ceremony and reception. Let’s have your guests raving about how yours was the first wedding they’ve ever felt really welcomed and a part of it. Now, wouldn’t that be nice.
Alan Berg has over 20 years of experience in the wedding industry and has authored three books, “If your website was an employee, would you fire it?,” “Don’t Paint The House” and “Your Attitude for Success.” Learn more at www.alanberg.com
This copyrighted article was written by Alan Berg, professional speaker, author and business consultant – North America’s Leading Expert on the Business of Weddings & Events, and published in Beautiful Bride Magazine. To find out more about Alan Berg visit www.AlanBerg.com © 2013 Alan Berg
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- Maybe your daughter will wear it, maybe she won’t, but all the same you want your gown to be clean, preserved and packed away for storage. You spent good money on your dream gown, so make sure it’s kept in the best condition possible.
- The longer stains remain on fabric, the more difficult it becomes to remove them. Most likely, any stain on your dress can be completely removed if taken care of within a reasonable amount of time.
- The only extra trip you need to take is the one that brings your gown to us! You leave us your shipping address and we take care of the packaging and shipping to Memories Gown Preservation (http://www.gownspreservations.com) for you. That’s it! They clean, preserve and mail your gown back to you inside a viewing box within 2-4 weeks, and the cost is only $185.
And there you have it…told you it was easy! Don’t let your precious wedding dress remain in a state of dishevel…bring her in!
Your New Beginnings Bridal Studio Team
It would be difficult to come across someone who didn’t appreciate at least one shade of pink or another. Weddings are notoriously famous for featuring this re/white mixture in the color scheme, and in every imaginable tone from vibrant hot pink to a pastel shade of blush. This gorgeous color originated in the 17th century when red Dianthus flowers took on a lighter hue. Surprisingly to most, it debuted as a “male” color because of the red and white base until sometime in the 1940’s when it was then designated as being feminine.Because pink is associated with love and romance, it’s obviously a popular Valentine’s Day color. It also represents compassion, tenderness, caring and acceptance. Pink is considered a calming hue, which, believe it or not, is the reason why many prisons issue pink jumpsuits and paint the cell walls in this color.
The color pink goes well with so many colors, so don’t be afraid to use it just because a few people you know included it in their décor. Color combinations to use for your wedding are almost limitless…especially when you consider originality in the mix! Here are a few ideas to get you thinking:
- Reds, pinks and oranges are incredibly warm and festive
- Pinks with greens and browns are oh so earthy
- Vivid pastel pinks, corals and purples are calming like sunsets
- Light pastel blues, pinks, yellows and lavenders are fresh with spring
- Shades of pink and black or grey are very sophisticated and elegant
Your turn…isn’t this so much fun!!
Your New Beginnings Bridal Studio Team
Out of curiosity, we did a bit of research on the bridal garter, the accessory and reception ritual we all know and love. We found about as many stories of its origination as there are styles of garters these days, but here’s the gist of how this long lasting wedding tradition began.
Sometime in the early 14th century England…the Dark Ages…it was considered to be lucky if one was able to obtain a piece of the bride’s attire. Well, as imagined, this quickly turned into a frightening scenario for the couple. The sweet little bride would be mobbed by their wedding guests, very possibly ending up scantily clothed if her groom and attendants could not fend off the excited guests. Thank goodness someone sensible cleverly thought that if the groom removed a piece of his bride’s attire and tossed it out to a random individual after the ceremony, it would save the wedding couple much stress, embarrassment and possible injury. The lucky guest (male) would then wear it on his hat for the duration of the celebration, and later give it to a woman for luck.
There’s also rumored that in France (of course), a “garter game” took place between the groom and groomsmen. After the groom removed his bride’s garter (which was used to hold up her stockings), he would emerge from the bridal suite and give it to his attendants to see who could toss and land it on his nose. The man who succeeded in the task would be the next to marry. Only one word could describe this one…whatever.
Thankfully, these days it stands strictly as a fun custom. There are no longer “strict” rules for what a garter should look like or be made of, so have fun and be creative! Here’s something that could be worth a bit of pre-thought. Your fiancé has most likely not considered the process he will go through during his collection of the garter. Some brides have been, although unintended, publicly exposed during the “garter gathering”, so you may want to give some direction on how far the dress gets lifted in his pursuit! Just a suggestion!
Your New Beginnings Bridal Studio Team