Here’s one for you…you carefully print out each name on each invitation, even going so far as to include an allowed guest or 2 for some. When the reply card comes back to you, there are more guests planning on coming with your freind than who were originally invited!! Hmmm…how do you handle THAT one?!
Well, it all comes down to your budget. If your budget and space can handle the “extras” on your reception count, then chalk it up to bad manners from your friends and greet them with as much good grace as you can muster. If you are already struggling with the count pushing your budget over the top and you truly cannot absorb the extras, then you may have to take some action. Choose someone in your family or bridal party who knows the “offender” well and ask them if they could tactfully explain the situation. Most people will graciously understand when they are told that even though the bride and groom would love to accomodate the extra people, their budget or space limitations makes it impossible to do so. Even though the chance of someone becoming offended is slim, if that is the case, they aren’t true friends in the first place. After all, they are the ones who overstepped the etiquette boundaries.
If your wedding is not geared toward families, make sure your invitation reads “adult only reception”. Another idea is to have a separate reception for children, where you arrange for sitters, movies, crafts and a simple kid-friendly menu (pizza anyone?) in another available room in the building. We hope these ideas help with one of those awkward wedding situations!
Your New Beginnings Bridal Studio Team