Ok, here’s one for you! For months now you have meticulously planned your wedding with a specific guest count in mind. You have carefully printed each name on each invitation, and allowed for your single guests to bring an extra (or maybe even two!). When the RSVP’s are tallied, somehow the count is larger than what you planned for! What?! Well, apparently a few invited guests figured you wouldn’t mind them going over their “plus 1” limit. Ugh…now what?
Well, it all comes down to your budget. If your budget and space can handle the “extras”, then chalk it up to bad manners from your guests and let it go at that. But, if you are already struggling with the count pushing your budget over the top, and you truly cannot absorb the extras, then you may have to take some action (eek!). Here’s an idea…pass the buck! Choose someone in your family or bridal party who knows the “offender” well and ask them to tactfully explain the situation. Most people will graciously understand when they are told that even though the bride and groom would love to accommodate the extra people, their space limitations or catering/venue agreements make it impossible to do so. The chance of someone being offended is slim, but if that is the case, they aren’t true friends in the first place. After all, they are the ones who decided to overstep the etiquette boundaries.
If your wedding is not geared toward families, make sure your invitation reads “adult only reception” so that guests understand that bringing their children would be inappropriate. An idea for family friendly weddings is to have a separate reception room for children, where you arrange for sitters, movies, crafts and a simple (cheap) kid-friendly menu, like pizza.
This might be one of those awkward wedding situations, but here’s hoping these ideas can help move you past it and onward! Good Luck!
Your New Beginnings Bridal Studio Team